A couple of weeks ago, I celebrated my 29th birthday. Though it wasn’t as fabulous as I had originally planned for it to be earlier this year, it was still a great birthday at home with loved ones. For my 28th birthday, I looked back at the past year and all of the changes that had happened in such a short time. But this year, I don’t want to look back, and honestly, I don’t want to sit and speak to my plans or goals for the next year. Instead, I want to talk about the hear and now, and reflect on what I have and how happy I have been.
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WHERE I AM IN MY 29TH YEAR
Right now, I am in a state of happiness. Yes, there are days where I feel overwhelmed, anxious, and there are struggles that I have as a wife and a mom. And though those days aren’t the best, I also don’t let them defeat me. Instead, I look at how those moments are developing me. When I struggle as a mom, I just think of all of the other new moms that are going through this and have gone through this and know that I am not alone and that this moment is teaching me something. And in the times where my husband and I aren’t fully getting along and the one thing that I want to do is walk away, I think to myself that these are growing pains in a marriage and that we have only been married for about three years. Things will be okay.
Then I also think of what has changed and developed for me recently. I am in a place where I have been able to change careers to stay at home with my son, and I have been able to grow my business to the point where I am expanding more on the LivingLesh Youtube channel, I launched an eBook that speaks to the African American experience, and I am currently running a podcast – That Luxe Life – where I can share my tips on how to create a luxurious lifestyle without breaking the bank.
I know things will only get better and growth will happen, but I also know that I will have bad days and good days because growth doesn’t happen without growing pains. I am happy with where I am in my life right now, and I haven’t had moments where I have looked back and thought, I should have done that differently. It’s because of those moments that I am the person that I am now. I’ve grown from it, and I know that I’ll keep growing as the years pass by, and the goals that I set for myself, I’ll reach them as long as I’m not afraid to put the work in and make those mistakes.
HOW WE CELEBRATED MY 29TH BIRTHDAY DURING A PANDEMIC
I will openly say that next year, I am planning a party that speaks to who I am and I am not going to spare the expense. I mean, I’ll be turning 30. Big milestone. And I deserve to celebrate myself. That’s a birthday that I’ll reflect back on and think of all of the things I have accomplished in the past decade and what things I will accomplish in the next.
But for this birthday, we kept it sweet and simple and I celebrated in a comfortable and luxurious way that I know how. Since we are in a pandemic, we stayed at home. We ordered a custom cake from The Master’s Baker (shout out to them for creating this beautiful cake within 7 days of me ordering it ), and we invited the immediate family over for drinks and dessert. I, of course, had a little birthday photo shoot earlier in the day to celebrate me – something I have been doing for the past few years. And I also tried out a few drinks and had a little dance party with my husband and son – which consisted mostly of me watching my husband dance around the kitchen.
The family came over and tried out my cocktails and we had cake and great discussion. We watched some Netflix, my sister and I fell asleep on the couch, and them we called it a night before midnight. It was comfortable, sweet, and a great birthday at home.